Being in a relationship can be difficult. Communication issues, emotional ebbs and flows, and time constraints can quickly sour a partnership. Add in distance, and things can become even more complicated. Also, not having access to consistent physical touch and sex can put a strain on any relationship. So, what do you do when you want to get intimate with your partner but they are far away? Sure, phone sex via FaceTime can work, too, but it’s hard to feel connected over a screen, so as a solution, perhaps you should consider opting for a sex toy that you both can use despite the distance.
Believe it or not, long-distance sex toys can provide the same generous and pleasurable orgasms you usually receive from your partner in real life, thanks to Bluetooth-enabled features that allow you and your partner to team up to control the speed, intensity, and functions from anyplace they are in the world, with the help of an app. Plus, you’re able to leverage these sex toys as part of your long-distance virtual sex routine to heighten the intensity. While distance sure does make the heart grow fonder, long-distance sex toys can bring you and your partner closer.
Check out some of our favorite toys below!
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ZALO AVA Smart Wand Massager
This chic toy is waterproof and has 8 vibration modes. It is also protected against high-pressure water streams from any angle.Available at Amazon
Your G-Spot will thank you for using this toy! With a finger swipe, you can customize vibrations and choose from various patterns. This remote vibrator keeps long-distance relationships thrilling, making it the ultimate upgrade for your sex life, whether for solo play or foreplay.Available at Amazon
This toy is like a suction for your clitoris! Using non-contact pressure-wave technology, this toy provides feelings of suction and pulsations, similar to the sensations you feel during oral sex and your partner can control the movements via the app!Available at Amazon
This sleek G spot vibrator combines internal and external pleasure with two-way simulated intercourse and can sync up with your partner’s devices. The G spot massager is made of safe silicone, and its ergonomic design increases intimacy between partners. Also, it’s Bluetooth and app-controlled.Available at Amazon
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ZALO Aya Wearable Vibrator with 8 Vibration Modes
This toy is versatile! You can enjoy external vulva stimulation from Aya’s contoured body, as well as deep, internal stimulation from the removable silicone attachment that’s curved and features a bulbous tip to target the G-spot. Also, it’s compatible with the ZALO Remote Pro app, which allows you and your boo to customize the powerful functions with the tap or stroke of their fingertip and control the toy from anywhere in the world via Bluetooth and Wifi.Available at Amazon
Seamlessly enjoy app-controlled couple’s play. With this wearable vibrator, you can connect to your partner’s device – play together or apart, easily and discreetly using OhMiBod Remote App. This wearable massager can be played long-distance control via wifi and a range of up to 26 feet via Bluetooth.Available at Good Vibes
This unique O-shaped internal arm holds the toy perfectly in place during sex, while a flexible design with an adjustable hinge allows you to find the best body fit. You and your partner can use the button on the toy or play with the remote or accessible We-Vibe app to explore more options. There are also ten different intensity levels. You can start with a gentle buzz and increase the intensity as things heat up. Also, the vibrator has an ergonomic shape for shared hands-free vibrations during sex.Available at Amazon
If you’ve ever been to ESSENCE Hollywood House, you know it’s more than just a series of panels—it’s a gathering of visionaries. A space where Black creatives and leaders come together to share stories, strategies, and solutions. This year’s conversation, Let’s Talk About LA: Preserving Our City, presented by AT&T, was no different.
The discussion brought together three voices, each deeply invested in shaping LA’s future: D. Smoke, the Grammy-nominated rapper and educator; Olympia Auset, founder of SÜPRMRKT, a grocery service tackling food apartheid in LA; and DJ HED, a radio personality and advocate for independent artists. Though their paths differed, their mission was the same—creating opportunities, protecting culture, and ensuring Black spaces in LA don’t just survive but thrive.
For Olympia Ausset, the work she’s doing with SÜPRMRKT goes far beyond providing fresh groceries—it’s about laying the foundation for a stronger, healthier community. “The LA we love, the cultural beacon it’s known as today, was built by people who worked hard to create their own spaces,” she shared. “The reason I do what I do is because it’s essential. We can’t achieve any of the changes I want for my community without being in good health and having access to affordable, organic food. Without places where we can gather, heal, and support each other, none of the other goals will be possible. It starts with taking care of ourselves and building those spaces together.”
From Olympia’s focus on wellness and accessibility to DJ HED’s belief in the power of self-worth, the discussion explored what it means to dream beyond individual success and invest in collective progress. “I see a lot of people who aren’t proud of where they come from, what they look like, or where they’re at in life,” he said. “I had to learn to give myself grace, to grow. I grew up in Inglewood, raised by a single mom. We lived in a car, we were on welfare, but I knew I wanted to be bigger than my circumstances. That’s what dreaming in Black is—believing in something greater and nurturing it until it grows.”
DJ Smoke also touched on this, emphasizing the importance of intention and fulfillment. “You don’t want to climb that ladder and realize you went real high in the wrong direction,” he warned. “A lot of people in LA are ambitious, but if you don’t understand your ‘why,’ you can get to the top and still feel empty. The goal isn’t just to make it—it’s to make it mean something.
Sometimes, as Black creatives, we only dream as far as the next gig or the next check, but dreaming in Black means going beyond that. “It means thinking bigger than what’s right in front of you,” said host Donye Taylor.
This conversation was a call to action – a reminder that preserving LA’s Black culture means investing in community, honoring our history, and building a legacy that lasts.
