What's the key to making a marriage work for more than 40 years? For one, being willing to roll up your sleeves and do the work, the hard work, to keep the locomotive of love going. But according to Academy-Award nominated actress Alfre Woodard, it's also about lightness, like being able to laugh together in good times and bad.
"You can cry about it, you can argue about it, and then sometimes in the middle of it all, you don't know why, but something will make you laugh," she told PEOPLE about getting through the "difficulties of life" in a partnership. The Scorpio has been married to husband Roderick Spencer since 1983, the two sharing two adult children, Mavis and Duncan, whom they adopted. He is a member of the Hollywood elite, too, but more so behind the camera as a writer and producer. They worked together on the 2019 Netflix film, Juanita, and are co-owners of Miss Maglashan Productions, Inc.
Being able to tap into joy has kept them going so strong they didn't even do anything different to mark the big 4-0 in 2023.
"You know what? When it's real, you don't stop to mark a date," she said. "We just would do what we would be doing. We don't renew vows. I still have my same wedding band. If I want another ring, I put it on another hand."
She hasn't opened up too much over the years about their bond in interviews, but if you follow Woodard on Instagram, you'll see the Salem's Lot star loves sharing throwback photos and present-day pics of her "baby daddy," as she's affectionately called him online. In addition to being that, he's the person she connects with most in this life.
"I've been fortunate enough that we have continued to find that we learn best together, and that we work best together," she said in 2021. "And there's always been a strong artistic connection between us. That's the bottom line. We speak the same language."
One of our favorite actresses, she's only getting busier (including recent work in the live-action The Lion King, The Book of Clarence, the Moon Girl and Devil Dinosaur TV series, Summer Camp and as mentioned, most recently, HBO's Salem's Lot), and better, just like her marriage.
Scroll through to see some sweet, classic, and recent images of Woodard and Spencer's love over the years. Forty down, forever to go!
Alfre Woodard and Roderick Spencer (Photo by Ron Galella/Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)
Roderick Spenser and Alfre Woodard during 56th Annual Academy Awards Governor's Ball at Beverly Hilton Hotel in Beverly Hills, California, United States. (Photo by Ron Galella/Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)
Alfre Woodard and Roderick Spencer during 38th Annual Primetime Emmy Awards at Pasadena Civic Auditorium in Pasadena, California, United States. (Photo by Ron Galella/Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)
Alfre Woodard and Roderick Spencer (Photo by Ron Galella/Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)
American married couple, author & producer Roderick Spencer and actor Alfre Woodard, attend a political fundraiser (at Ted Field's home), Beverly Hills, California, October 16, 1988. (Photo by Ron Galella, Ltd./Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)
American actress Alfre Woodard and her husband Roderick Spencer attend the 42nd Primetime Emmy Awards at the Pasadena Civic Auditorium in Pasadena, California, USA, 16th September 1990. Woodard is nominated for Outstanding Lead Actress in a Miniseries or a Special, for her role in 'A Mother's Courage: The Mary Thomas Story'. (Photo by Vinnie Zuffante/Getty Images)
Alfre Woodard and Roderick Spencer during "Grand Canyon" Los Angeles Premiere at Cineplex Odeon Cinemas in Century City, California, United States. (Photo by Ron Galella/Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)
American married couple, author & producer Roderick Spencer and actor Alfre Woodard, attend a screening of 'Passion Fish' at Universal Studios, Universal City, California, December 3, 1992. (Photo by Ron Galella, Ltd./Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)
Alfre Woodard, Roderick Spencer, and daughter Mavis Spencer (Photo by Ron Galella/Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)
Alfre Woodard and Roderick Spencer during The 8th Annual IFP/West Independent Spirit Awards at Santa Monica Beach in Santa Monica, California, United States. (Photo by Ron Galella, Ltd./Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)
American married couple, author & producer Roderick Spencer and actor Alfre Woodard, attend a screening of 'House of Spirits' at the Cineplex Odeon Cinema, Century City, California, March 30, 1994. (Photo by Ron Galella, Ltd./Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)
American married couple, author & producer Roderick Spencer and actor Alfre Woodard, attend the 52nd annual Golden Globe Awards at the Beverly Hilton Hotel, Beverly Hills, California, January 21, 1995. (Photo by Ron Galella, Ltd./Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)
American actress Alfre Woodard and her husband Roderick Spencer attend the 11th Annual Independent Spirit Awards in Santa Monica, California, USA, 23rd March 1996. (Photo by Vinnie Zuffante/Getty Images)
Roderick Spencer and Alfre Woodard during 49th Annual Primetime Emmy Awards in Los Angeles, California, United States. (Photo by Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic, Inc)
American married couple, actor Alfre Woodard and author & producer Roderick Spencer, attend the 55th annual Golden Globe Awards at the Beverly Hilton Hotel, Beverly Hills, California, January 18, 1998. (Photo by Ron Galella, Ltd./Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)
(Original Caption) Arrival of actress Alfre Woodard with husband Roderick Spencer, son Duncan and daughter Mavis. (Photo by Frank Trapper/Corbis via Getty Images)
Alfre Woodard and Roderick Spencer during The 32nd Annual NAACP Image Awards at Universal Amphitheatre in Universal City, California, United States. (Photo by Ron Galella/Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)
Alfre Woodard & husband Roderick Spencer during 2003 Emmy Creative Arts Awards - Arrivals at Shrine Auditorium in Los Angeles, California, United States. (Photo by Jeffrey Mayer/WireImage)
LOS ANGELES - MARCH 24: Actress Alfre Woodard, her husband writer Roderick Spencer and their children Mavis and Duncan arrive at the premiere of MGM's "Beauty Shop" at the National Theater on March 24, 2005 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Kevin Winter/Getty Images)
Alfre Woodard and husband Roderick Spencer during 58th Annual Primetime Emmy Awards - Red Carpet at The Shrine Auditorium in Los Angeles, California, United States. (Photo by Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic)
HOLLYWOOD - NOVEMBER 11: Actress Alfre Woodard (R) and husband producer Roderick Spencer arrive at the closing night gala screening of "Love In The Time Of Cholera" during AFI FEST 2007 presented by Audi held at the Cinerama Dome on November 11, 2007 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Kevin Winter/Getty Images)
WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA - DECEMBER 08: (L-R) Roderick Spencer, Miss Golden Globe Mavis Spencer and actress Alfre Woodard attend the 2nd annual Golden Globes party saluting young Hollywood held at Nobu Los Angeles on December 8, 2009 in West Hollywood, California. (Photo by Kevin Winter/Getty Images)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - FEBRUARY 10: Producer Roderick Spencer and actress Alfre Woodard arrives for the Robert Redford Award for Engaged Artists Gala at The Beverly Wilshire Hotel on February 10, 2010 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Mark Sullivan/WireImage)
Actress Alfre Woodard her husband Roderick Spencer. Woodard has been nominated once for an Academy Award and Grammy Award, 18 times for the Emmy Award (winning four), and has also won a Golden Globe Award and three Screen Actors Guild Awards. (Photo by Brooks Kraft LLC/Corbis via Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - OCTOBER 14: Actress Alfre Woodard (C), her husband Roderick Spencer (R) and their son Duncan arrive at the premiere of Fox Searchlights' "12 Years A Slave" at the Directors Guild on October 14, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Kevin Winter/Getty Images)
HOLLYWOOD, CA - MARCH 02: Writer Roderick Spencer (L) and actress Alfre Woodard attend the Oscars held at Hollywood & Highland Center on March 2, 2014 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Ethan Miller/WireImage)
NEW YORK, NY - JANUARY 11: Writer Roderick Spencer and Actress Alfre Woodard attend the "Lemony Snicket's A Series Of Unfortunate Events" Screening at AMC Lincoln Square Theater on January 11, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Mike Coppola/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NEW YORK - MARCH 07: Alfre Woodard (L) and Roderick M. Spencer attend the "Juanita" New York screening at Metrograph on March 07, 2019 in New York City. (Photo by Dia Dipasupil/Getty Images)
HOLLYWOOD, CALIFORNIA - JULY 09: (L-R) Mavis Spencer, Duncan Spencer, Alfre Woodard and Roderick Spencer attend the premiere of Disney's "The Lion King" at Dolby Theatre on July 09, 2019 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Matt Winkelmeyer/Getty Images)
Alfre Woodard and Roderick Spencer at the Albie Awards hosted by the Clooney Foundation for Justice held at The New York Public Library on September 29, 2022 in New York City. (Photo by Kristina Bumphrey/Variety via Getty Images)
HOLLYWOOD, CALIFORNIA - MARCH 25: (L-R) Alfre Woodard and Roderick Spencer attend the 2022 Governors Awards at The Ray Dolby Ballroom at Hollywood & Highland Center on March 25, 2022 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Mike Coppola/Getty Images)