Should you or shouldn’t you snoop through your man’s belongings? It’s a popular debate among men and women, and there is no right or wrong answer. It’s subjective.
Some women turn the other cheek because they don’t want to know, while others are always on the hunt to see what their man is up to or if he’s telling the truth.
Mary Jane Paul is one of those women who wants to know, but on last night’s episode of Being Mary Jane she learned a little more than she planned on.
The first mistake she made was to bring his secret box home to her place.
The the next “oh no” moment came when she told her co-worker about the box and had him snoop along with her.
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Now, if you’re going to snoop, rule number one is to be careful and put things back in their place, especially if your man is as well kept, calculated and meticulous as Justin (Michael Eayl) on the show. When the box fell over with all of Justin’s secrets, including a zip lock bag with used pantyhose in it, falling out, we knew things were only going left from there. Of course, Twitter couldn’t agree more. Here are some of the best tweets from Being Mary Jane viewers and their thoughts on her snooping:
The worst snooping is when you snoop on a person who's meticulous & highly organized. 😒#BeingMaryJane
— No Taxation Without Reparations (@lifeandmorelife) August 9, 2017
If you’ve ever been to ESSENCE Hollywood House, you know it’s more than just a series of panels—it’s a gathering of visionaries. A space where Black creatives and leaders come together to share stories, strategies, and solutions. This year’s conversation, Let’s Talk About LA: Preserving Our City, presented by AT&T, was no different.
The discussion brought together three voices, each deeply invested in shaping LA’s future: D. Smoke, the Grammy-nominated rapper and educator; Olympia Auset, founder of SÜPRMRKT, a grocery service tackling food apartheid in LA; and DJ HED, a radio personality and advocate for independent artists. Though their paths differed, their mission was the same—creating opportunities, protecting culture, and ensuring Black spaces in LA don’t just survive but thrive.
For Olympia Ausset, the work she’s doing with SÜPRMRKT goes far beyond providing fresh groceries—it’s about laying the foundation for a stronger, healthier community. “The LA we love, the cultural beacon it’s known as today, was built by people who worked hard to create their own spaces,” she shared. “The reason I do what I do is because it’s essential. We can’t achieve any of the changes I want for my community without being in good health and having access to affordable, organic food. Without places where we can gather, heal, and support each other, none of the other goals will be possible. It starts with taking care of ourselves and building those spaces together.”
From Olympia’s focus on wellness and accessibility to DJ HED’s belief in the power of self-worth, the discussion explored what it means to dream beyond individual success and invest in collective progress. “I see a lot of people who aren’t proud of where they come from, what they look like, or where they’re at in life,” he said. “I had to learn to give myself grace, to grow. I grew up in Inglewood, raised by a single mom. We lived in a car, we were on welfare, but I knew I wanted to be bigger than my circumstances. That’s what dreaming in Black is—believing in something greater and nurturing it until it grows.”
DJ Smoke also touched on this, emphasizing the importance of intention and fulfillment. “You don’t want to climb that ladder and realize you went real high in the wrong direction,” he warned. “A lot of people in LA are ambitious, but if you don’t understand your ‘why,’ you can get to the top and still feel empty. The goal isn’t just to make it—it’s to make it mean something.
Sometimes, as Black creatives, we only dream as far as the next gig or the next check, but dreaming in Black means going beyond that. “It means thinking bigger than what’s right in front of you,” said host Donye Taylor.
This conversation was a call to action – a reminder that preserving LA’s Black culture means investing in community, honoring our history, and building a legacy that lasts.
