Why does it feel like the men are always the ones offering women dating “advice” online? Since when have they had us all figured out? What if we want to be women and also think like them too? So we decided to flip the script. We asked women what their best love and dating advice would be for men.
“Stop trying to be “cool,” and be who you are, even if it’s a little dorky. And cussing is a turn off.” – Bri K., 26
“Pay attention to the little things. When a man remembers the little details, it can say more than any grand gesture.” — Talia, 24
“Be clear and honest with what your intentions are from the beginning, most women appreciate that.” — Tasneim Z., 20
“The key to approaching women is to feel them out before you go in for the kill. Maybe you’ll find out she hates sunshine and puppies in conversation and decide not to hit on her and save yourself some time.” – Shay D., 24
“Guys please take into consideration that we are more emotional and feel different about things than you do. With that being said, please be sensitive to your mate’s feelings and step outside of yours from time to time.” — Jasmine G., 27
“Friendship is a great foundation to a meaningful relationship. Instead of the man trying to have romantic dates in the beginning, it’s a good gesture to have hangouts where the two can get to know each other and their interests. (I.e. instead of a romantic dinner, try a museum outing, concerts, bike riding)” — Amanda D., 27
“Nothing makes a man ‘feel’ better than a woman. Allow her in. Men are constantly told to “man up,” be strong, tough and all that. And women nurture by nature. There is strength in being open and vulnerable with the one you love. Even if it isn’t love just yet, be willing to share. It’s like a game of catch … you have to throw to play.” — Tamika St., 34
“Men, please aim for honesty and intention when you’re dating a woman. If you really like a woman and you have been dating her for a while, please let her know how you feel about her. Have a conversation with her about making things exclusive. Don’t allow her to be confused about what’s going on or to be left dangling from a string.” — Monica, 29
“Communicate your needs and desires to your woman clearly, and not in a joking or passive way. She is meant to be a helper, not a mind reader or magician.” — Holly P., 31
“My biggest dating tip for men is to take initiative. Figure out what the woman enjoys, and plan a nice date accordingly. It goes a lot further than simply asking, “What do you want to do?” Not only does it show your interest and attentiveness, but also it shows your creativity, which is always a huge plus.” — Victoria J., 22
“When you show me you know how to make plans and you put me into your busy schedule, it shows me that I’m a priority and makes me feel important. Spontaneity is fun and great here and there, but a woman like me is grinding right now and doesn’t always have the luxury of that. So show me you respect my time and let me know things in advance. Whether we’re in the early getting to know phase or deeply committed, my little boo thing – whatever – if you want my time you have to value it.” — Natelege W., 27
“Be yourself. If you’re a nerd, embrace it. No need to be “cool,” and chivalry goes a long way and yes, I’m a feminist.” — L’Oreal P., 28
“I’m always surprised when they do the little things, like bringing my favorite candy or one flower. And surprises! Listening will help you figure out the small gestures and surprises like saying “let’s go to Chic-fil-a and a movie,” because you know it’s one of my favorite things.” — Ashlee D., 23
“A lot of what women do is to get the attention of men. So when men say they don’t like make-up and weaves but every time a woman walks by with a weave down her back and makeup caked on her face and he’s breaking his neck to see her, that’s very confusing. Stop that.” — Shauntae A., 31
“My advice to men on dating and love would be that they be honest with their feelings. Also, that they pay close attention to the wants and desires of their mate and to always communicate even during the difficult times. And there is no perfect woman or relationship. You have to be willing to put in the work.” — Tamika Se., 41
