Home • Relationships 20 Ways to Save Black Love 20 Ways to Save Black Love By Essence · Updated October 28, 2020 01 How to Make It Work “Increase self-love so that people can truly know how and what it means to love another.” By @NaturallyJazzy 02 How to Make It Work Individuals should take responsibility for their personal & relationship issues & stop blaming society, men, women, etc. By @sowhatiff 03 How to Make It Work “Improved communication in couples before vows are made. A lot of people don’t discuss wants and desires before marriage.” By @ibanomaly 04 How to Make It Work “Increase number of healthy, mentally stable, commitment ready, family oriented black singles and a way for them to meet.” By @Occaneechi 05 How to Make It Work “A solution for the new form of slavery..mass incarceration..in addition to aggressive education of black men.” By @LaPhonologist 06 How to Make It Work “Black Love needs better PR. It’s not just Barack & Michelle or Will & Jada.” By @YonnieTaughtU 07 How to Make It Work “We have to stop glamorizing the ‘I don’t need anybody’ attitude. Wise people know interdependence is key.” By @BoldBeauty56 08 How to Make It Work “The culture needs to show it as more common vs. being a rarity. Most TV shows depict relationships as being drama filled.” By @RohanCrawford 09 How to Make It Work “Take the option of divorce off the table.” By @Key2J 10 How to Make It Work “Instead of the media pushing co-habitation, marriage should be encouraged instead.” By @imlizzashley 11 How to Make It Work “What if gov’t FURTHER incentivized marriage? Lower tax bills, subsidized housing and healthcare?” By @AwesomeJohnson 12 How to Make It Work “Women need to learn their role and allow a man to be a man. God didn’t intend for the woman to be the head.” By @Only1Maranda 13 How to Make It Work “Put God first!” By @EllyG_ 14 How to Make It Work People need to see & hear healthy relationships, great 1s & especially 1s that were not always great but they made it still. By @ivorytabb" 15 How to Make It Work More conversations about marriage and forums by married couples…that keep the convo real! By @myriadthatisme 16 How to Make It Work People need to see & hear healthy relationships, great 1s & especially 1s that were not always great but they made it still. By @ivorytabb WHERE BLACK CULTURE, COMMUNITY AND CONSCIOUSNESS MEET Sign up for ESSENCE Newsletters to see more of Black Women’s Boundlessness Your email is required. Your email is in invalid format. Subscribe Now By clicking Subscribe Now, you agree to our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy. Thank you for subscribing to the ESSENCE newsletter. You'll receive a welcome email shortly. Check out our other newsletters and get more of your favorite ESSENCE content delivered to your Inbox each week. Please select at least one option. ESSENCE Daily: The best in Black celeb news, love, style, advice, and issues that matter to you! Beauty-Verse: All things Black beauty. Our editors give you the lowdown on everything you need to maintain your mane and melanin. Living Well: Health, wellness and self-love is a journey. Our editors provide guidance and inspiration to help you live your best life. Wealth Wisdom: A boss woman's guide to succeeding at work, money and career. All-Access: Exclusive offers and special event invitations from ESSENCE and our partners. ESSENCE Festival: Keep up to date on the latest ESSENCE Festival news. Your email is required. Your email is in invalid format. Confirm email is required. Email did not match. Update Subscription By clicking Update Subscription, you agree to our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy. 17 How to Make It Work “We need to give black women sufficient reason to begin respecting us again by becoming better men (husbands, fathers, providers).” By @jimitweets 18 How to Make It Work “In this INSTANT society Teach commitment, sticktoitiveness, conflict resolution, empathy, diversity & CARE!” By @UrbanDialog 19 How to Make It Work “Emphasize the spiritual significance of the covenant over the legal significance of the contract.” By @BWSchick 20 How to Make It Work “Change the belief that marriage marks the end of “life”, fun and freedom. By @Maleywood 21 How to Make It Work “Be honest about whether we’re truly willing to do what it takes to make love work, which involves selflessness & sacrifice.” By @Mr_Squires 22 I’m Here for You Need more advice? Just ask. Find me on Twitter or Facebook now. Read More Entertainment Your Guide To The Hottest Album Releases Of Spring ‘25 Fashion ICYMI: Balmain Hosts NYC Dinner, LaPointe Spring 2025 Bridal... Lifestyle The GOAT Drops The Mic: Serena Williams Introduces The 2025 ... Beauty Small, Black Woman-owned Beauty Brands To Know Shop 8 Spring Wedding Guest Dresses